If you are watching someone you love destroy themselves with an addiction to drugs alcohol, gambling or other types of addicted behaviors then you are experiencing a great deal of pain. It may be that you and other family members have tried every means possible to get the addict/alcoholic in your life to stop. Maybe you have tried every possible way Just to get them to understand what their behavior is doing to you, the kids and others in their life. You are not alone. You want relief. You want direction, and you need direction. All your begging, threatening and even leaving will not change the reality
Addicts and alcoholics are INCAPABLE of seeing what their addiction is doing to themselves. Therefore, they are incapable of seeing what their addiction is doing to the people they love the most in the world.
Addiction is a brain disease which causes significant changes to occur in the circuitry of the brain. These changes are responsible for the irrational, compulsive and high risk behaviors often seen in individuals with addiction.
Family members often believe they are some how responsible for their loved ones addiction. This is TOTALLY not true. No matter what you have been told. You did not cause the addiction and you can not fix the addiction. You can only take care of yourself.
We understand that family members experience an array of feelings about their loved ones addiction. Unfortunately family members often catch themselves walking on egg shells around the addict in their life. It is not unusual for family members to even question their own sanity.
Fear, anxiety and sleepless nights can lead to physical illness. It is important that family members take care of them selves no matter what.
ALAP understands addiction. We have helped hundreds of lawyers and family members
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» Addiction and the Family by Don Carol